Sex shouldn’t be a “pain”

No Pain

Boomer women aren’t shy about their sexuality or are they?  We were the generation that had access to various means of birth control; we were liberated, emancipated, and freer than our Mothers?  Unfortunately, we won’t ask for what we want and need when it comes to sex.

I’m talking about vulvovaginal atrophy that affects 20% to 45% of women beginning in midlife and older.  Yes, it is a medical condition AND it doesn’t mean you are somehow inadequate or unsexy! It’s the result of lower levels of estrogen during menopause and the symptoms include itching, dryness, (sometimes women will also have the urge to go to the bathroom more often and with greater urgency), and painful sex.  Just when you threw your birth control out the window and you were looking forward to having sex with wanton abandon**, there’s the issue of pain. In fact, less than 25% of women with the symptom of pain during sex will discuss it; not even with their physician.   Instead they avoid having sex, or if they do have it may come with tearing, bleeding, and discomfort.   Sex is supposed to be pleasurable.  Time to confront the issue and start living life again.

What to do?

  1. Ask for help
  2. Check into non-hormonal lubricants and moisturizers;
    I’m personally not a fan of hormones
  3. iscuss this with your partner
  4. The cliché of use it or lose it is true
  5. Check out Jeffrey Osborne’s “Baby Stay with Me Tonight”
  6. When sex is FUN again, you’ll be “surfing in bed” again and again

**Important: Please practice safe sex. Unprotected sex may lead to sexually transmitted diseases including transmission of the HIV virus.

And, this is TMI for my daughter, so I hope she isn’t reading my blog.

Take good care,

Health and Happiness in the New Year!

new year

The FemmePharma Woman guards her health; in fact, she is ferocious about maintaining the healthiest lifestyle possible for herself and for her loved ones. It should be obvious that you cannot be there for your loved ones if you have not been fastidious about your health care needs.

Yes, I know, you’re pulled in all directions and some days you don’t know if you took the time to “breathe”.  BUT it’s time to pick up that calendar and plot out the year for your physical and “age appropriate” diagnostic tests. Tackle each one. If you’re terrified take a friend or loved one.  You may have to pay “dearly’ for making someone sit in the doctor’s office while you get poked and prodded so better think about  “pay back”…..

As you receive an “unremarkable finding” celebrate with your friends and family members and be grateful. (YAHOO).

If there is a challenge to be faced the sooner it’s confronted the higher the probability you and your practitioners can address it and hopefully resolve it.  Don’t worry either; worry is useless! Conserve your energy and attitude and fight for your health.


January is Cervical Cancer Awareness Month.  Remember to schedule that Pap Test.
What is cervical cancer?
It’s cancer that begins in the cervix; at the “upper end” of the vaginal canal.
What causes cervical cancer?
Most cases of cervical cancer are caused by the human papillomavirus (HPV) infection.  Often referred to as “genital warts”.
How many women are diagnosed with cervical cancer?
The National Cancer Institute (NCI), estimates that 12,300 women will be diagnosed with cervical cancer in 2013 and over 4,000 will die of the disease.
What are the symptoms of cervical cancer?
There are typically no overt symptoms of the disease but regular Pap tests will be able to identify early pre-cancerous, or cancerous cells.

Early detection is not cliché; it may save your life.